3:13 PM DearKirsten: When you like someone, and you are not sure if they like you too, it's not always best to put your hand over your heart and tell them how you feel. But there are ways to drop hints and open the door for them, so that if they are interested, they're more likely to start showing it. Touch your face and hair when you're talking to her. Touch her, casually, on the arm or knee when you're talking to her. Laugh at her jokes. Touch her arm or knee when you laugh at her jokes. Notice when her glass is empty, and always offer to fill it up or get her another. Make eye contact from across the room at parties; smile. If you get an inside joke going between just the two of you, bring it up as much as possible. Never let it die. Say her name when you're talking to her. (It's true! People thrill at the sound of their own name—especially when uttered by someone they're interested in.) Find a common enemy: another party guest, an annoying guy at the bar, a broken jukebox, the lack of pizza joints in this part of town. It's you two against the world. If she mentions an ex, or a date gone bad, tell her that she is too good for that person, anyway. Give them a ridiculously huge tip. (This only works if she is your waiter, bartender or barista. Obviously.) Email her because you just saw something and it "made me think of you." Treat her to something sometime. Make up a nickname for her. Be the only one who calls her that. Invent any excuse for her to come over — a new movie, a sports game, a dinner party, a home repair project you really need help with. Be genuinely delighted every time you see her — make no effort to hide it. Loan her a book that you "just thought she would like." Offer to hold her purse/bag/coat/cup. MIX TAPE! (No one makes a mix tape/cd for you unless they like you.) Make sure to get pictures of the two of you when you're out together. Handwrite a note on your business card when you give it to her. i.e. "Really good to meet you." Remember what her drink is without having to ask. Order it for her. Show up to her art opening/soccer game/open mic night/thing. Don't leave without saying goodbye. That shirt/perfume/ring/pair of shoes she once mentioned she liked? Wear it. A lot. Remember what you talked about the last time you saw each other, and ask her how things turned out the next time you see each other. If you take your hand, squeeze it or run your thumb over her knuckles. Text her. Not just to make plans, but just because. Dress up a little when you know you're going to see her. Bring up something little that you remember she once said to you. Offer to drive her to the airport. Just talk to her. About anything. Whenever you get the chance. Check out that TV show/movie/band/restaurant she mentioned. Tell her what you thought of it. Compliment her on something you think other people might notice about her. Pass her a note during class/a meeting/at a crowded bar. Find whatever excuse you possibly can for the two of you to end up at a karaoke bar. Insist on singing a duet. Always "randomly" have an extra ticket . (To "this movie," "this art thing," "my friend's band that's playing," "this lecture that seemed cool.") Ask her opinion on things. ("What TV show should I watch next on Netflix?") "Like" her stuff on Facebook. (Not too much—just enough to let her know you're reading.) Text back right away. Make friends with her friends. Tell her, as off-handedly as you can, that she smells good today. Send her a postcard when you're away. Give her your number, so you can take the conversation off email/facebook/twitter. Assume she wants coffee and bring her one. Learn how she takes it first. Post baby animal videos on her Facebook wall. Remember her birthday. Find a reasonable excuse (birthday, promotion at work) and send her flowers. Send her YouTube links to that band she mentioned she liked, or send her links to new bands that you think she would like. Kiss her on the cheek and hug her goodbye, instead of just saying it.
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