3:09 PM jtcoe0001: First of all you should know that confidence has no competition. You can't compare yourself to others. There will always be a girl who is hotter, smarter, richer, or whatever. Let me explain: I'm a short guy (5'6). I derive part of my confidence from my athleticism and it's partly how I express my masculinity. I go to the gym, work out hard, and listen to music that makes me feel like a bad:). Picture this. I'm the smallest dude in the gym (still strong though) and I'm looking around at how big all the other dudes are. If I constantly compare myself to them physically I will never feel confident or bad:) the way I want to. I will feel weak or inferior (which is kind of how you feel right now just in school). So I don't compare myself. I just know that I am the shit, and you should too. You should, because you are in some respect I'm sure. I get confidence from an extensive equation: Small part looks+physical strength+mental strength+wisdom+financial success+intelligence=confidence. In other words, be versatile. Work out to make yourself hot (you won't be the hottest). Work hard to make yourself financially successful (you won't be the most financially successful). The point is you will be overall better and your confidence will increase. You have to understand also that this is just one test, one subject, or just school. You can always get confidence from other outlets. For example if someone out performs me on a reading test I say, "Let's see if he beats me on the math test." If he beats me on the math test I say, "He still isn't as strong as me." If he is stronger I say, "He probably won't be as rich because he's not as hardworking." I'm simply saying to realize they might have been better in this specific circumstance, on this specific test. This doesn't mean they are smarter by any stretch of the imagination. It does not indicate success in the real world in any way. It's virtually pointless if you are high school or lower. Also, you need to learn to not care what your friends think. It's your life, not theirs. Don't let other people's meaningless opinions influence your life negatively. Do the best you can. Try not to compare yourself. Realize that nobody is better than you at everything. Everyone has insecurities (I've thought the same things before in school too, guess what, I'm an engineer!). The people you are competing with might just be a smart bunch, if so that's good because you want to surround yourself with people who are better in some respects. I hope this helps! Work hard, be strong, stay real and positive, and life will be just fine. Good luck!!!
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