1:58 PM jtcoe0001: First of all it's important to stand up for yourself to an extent in any relationship. Know your value and be able to walk away at any moment. This will attract him to you because it's how humans work. Your boyfriend is just a very logically guy and this should be seen as a good thing. For him, when you buy a gift it's not the thought that counts, it's the gift that does. Be practical. If he's not going to use it or get value from it don't buy it. He would rather you keep your money than buy him something that has no value to him. Gifts don't make him feel good, sex does. If you want to make him feel good make him food or give him a blowjob or let him watch tv in peace. It's truly that simple. As far as the guy friend, would you be okay with your boyfriend going out with female friends? You shouldn't be okay with that or you don't know men well. Your boyfriend knows that most men are not just friends with women to be friends, they are friends to have sex eventually. Some men don't do this, but the vast majority do. Your friends saw him as rude and you should defend him because he is your boyfriend. Don't take his gesture as rude, take it as pure logic. Nothing more, nothing less. In his mind it's simply, "What's more valuable? The gifts or the money?" Don't take this as rude, it's just how he thinks (and that's good thing a lot of times). Also, you say you're not his type, but if he wasn't attracted to you he wouldn't be with you! He likes you, that's why he's with you. Be aware of this and don't doubt yourself. You should also be very open with him. If you feel bad, explain that. He will give you logical reasons why he does what he does. Be okay with that, logic is good. I hope what I said helps!
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