1:44 AM jtcoe0001: Hello,
Unfortunately, I do not have enough detail about the situation to give the best advice I can. However, I will do the best with what I have.
I could be wrong because I do not have the whole context of your relationship at my disposal, but it could be a plausible assertion that your girlfriend isn't simply upset about this specific gaming situation you spoke about. There are a multitude of reasons why she could have gotten upset and you might not have been realizing this the whole time. If this is the case, or even if it isn't, the solution is clear:
The solution to this problem lies in a clear and genuine conversation with your girlfriend. This is a conversation where both of you get together in a place where all of your attention can be placed on what the other person is saying. The goal for this conversation is to be crystal clear about how well the relationship is going. What does she see as good? What does she think could be improved? Ask her, "What could I do to improve this relationship?" THEN LISTEN and implement. Explain your confusion to her about the dungeons and dragons episode and ask her to explain why she was so upset (in a non-condescending way). Offer your apologies even if you did nothing wrong.
My guess is that she wants you to spend more time with her, converse with her, talk to her. Giving a girl your time is an affirmation of love, something females need the same way males need sex. This is how important it is to her. So I'm thinking, when you asked her to leave so you could play a video game she thought, "Wow, now I can't even be in his presence when he's on that damn game." This is what she is probably upset about.
Once you have opened up to her, listened to her, and been genuine with her, she will be very cooperative when you offer suggestions on what she could do to improve. Before you give any suggestions ask her, "Would you mind if I ask you to compromise on some things?" If you have done the listening/ genuine part right then she will respond with, "Sure!". This is where you make an offer on how much gaming you think is fair. One hour a night, two, three? Determine what you want and make her an offer, then encourage her to offer what she wants back. Communicate clearly and come to a compromise. This conversation alone will not only solve this specific problem you were wondering about, but also the problem she is worrying about that you didn't think much of (the "I need his time and affirmations problem").
Females need certain things that males don't need as much of and vice versa. It is not expected for you to read her mind, but it is expected of you to ask her what is in her mind. Communication is key.
I hope this advice helps (trust me, it will if used correctly),
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