11:43 PM jtcoe0001: Sorry about that unfinished advice. My touch screen messed me up.
2. Your mom could genuinely believe that your fiance is a no good rat who is not a good long term partner.
It is more than likely that both of these reasons are responsible for your mom not liking your fiance. Also, I just reread what you wrote and my understanding of it is that your fiance might have gotten angry that you were letting your sister stay with you. If this is true then he might have a case for actually being a good guy. He could have seen your sister as disrupting the household, costing to much time, ect. I don't know the entire situation. I'm just speculating.
Here is what I would try and do:
If possible, and it should be, have your mother, fiance, and you get together to have a clear conversation about things. I'd say your home. Maybe make your mom dinner or something. Listen to and get to the bottom of why your mom dislikes your fiance. Have your fiance assure her that he is a good man for you (if he is a good man this will not be difficult). Just be genuine with your mom and your fiance. Encourage each of them to be genuine with you. The point of this is to get the truth out in the open and then respond to the problems that each of you see accordingly.
When your mom explains a problem she sees or has seen, tell her or have your fiance tell her what you plan to do about it. Once you have shown your mom that your fiance is a good man (by the way that's up for you to find out, I can't tell you because I don't know him) then she shouldn't hate him any longer. If she does still hate him or declines your offer to openly discuss the matter, then your mother needs to be thanked for her support and told that you love her but that you will do with your life what you see as best. Tell her you have no hard feelings and want to always be on good terms with her, but make it clear the reasons why you are with your fiance and that you feel your decision, whatever that may be, is best. If you reach a decision that you think is best and your mom disagrees, you need to tell her that you are going to do what you think is best, but that you still love her and want her to be in your life.
Lastly, I apologize for this disorganization of my response. It is my first time on the site and I'm still figuring this out.
I hope this advice was helpful and I wish you all the best in your future endeavors. Your friend out in the ether, Joshua Coe
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