3:29 PM Aquarius: Hi gettingthrough, First of all, I wish I could reach out and give you a big hug. I've never met you, but I know you are a beautiful and special person. Never forget that! You have in you strength that you don't even know you have. Believe it! You lost your parents when you were young and that is a huge thing for anyone of any age. You have suffered loss and started looking for love around you, hoping that each person that comes into your life will fill that void. That is only normal and don't feel bad about it. I know, because I went through the same issues myself, for many years and made it! You will too! You were with this guy for two years and you decided to walk away. Listen to that statement: YOU WALKED AWAY. This means that you no longer found what you were looking for in the relationship. You wanted more. Remember that. The reason you are so broken up is because HE moved on. Think about it...if you broke up with him and he did not date anyone, did not see anyone, would you have been as hurt? NO, of course not, because this way you were the one in control. Don't think of this as the end of the world. Believe me, time heals. When we were babies and someone took away our favorite toy, we thought it was the end of the world! Now we can look back and laugh and realize it was not that important. One day you will look back too, you will be sad that you went through all the tears and glad that you healed. You will be giving advice on this site and helping others because of what you went through. Be careful with your heart because it is precious. Don't give it to just anyone. Would you give, let's say, your cell phone to just about anyone who is nice to you? Hell NO! Your phone is precious and is your life. No way that you would just give it to anyone. Your heart is a lot more precious and special than your phone. Protect it. Give it only to someone who deserves it. You need to cry and let it all out. Crying is good. It cleanses our hearts and relieves our burdens. And one day you will wake up and realize it doesn't hurt as much. You will see. It will happen. And you will love many more people in your life. It will be a more mature love, one where you are more in control. When we are young, we love with our hearts and bodies and souls. We give everything we have to the other person and when we lose the love, it feels like we have lost ourselves. And you will be loved by many people. Make that your goal in life, to love and be loved, but not to lose yourself in it. I think it is good to move on with our lives, but you are right that it's not fair to the other person. You are in another relationship with another guy, most likely because you are looking for healing. You hope he will love you enough that the hurt will go away. Be careful. It's not fair to him. He may be falling in love with you and you will break his heart. Then he will be on this site looking for advice :) If you are just having fun and being good friends, that is ok. You need to have fun. But don't get too involved with him if your heart is not into it. You are a good person and YOU SHOULD NEVER CHANGE! We need more good people in this world. You just need to protect yourself and your heart. Don't think you were not good enough because he did not come back. Each relationship is like a lock and key. Only one key will fit in that lock perfectly. In this case, it almost fit. Don't worry about it. One day you will find the perfect fit. Be free, my girl! You are a beautiful person inside and out. You need to go out there and shine! I know I wrote a lot. I feel like I want to tell you everything I know so you heal and smile again. Copy this advice somewhere and read it at your leisure. Over time, things will jump out at you that you didn't notice at first. Be well :) Sending you love and light and lots of healing 3
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